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Anonymous asked: Please help, I've been trying not to cut again & I've nearly been 20 days clean but I just keep craving the blade & I don't even know why because some of the time I'm not even sad I just get a sudden urge, Please Help As Soon As You Can, thanks x

fairysharkmother:

First off I am proud of you for not self harming for a full 20 days.

I suggest maybe trying to replace the bad habit (self harming) with a few of these.

Alternatives for when you’re feeling angry or restless:

  • Scream very loudly
  • Tear apart newspapers, photos, or magazines
  • Go to the gym, dance, exercise
  • Listen to music and sing along loudly
  • Draw a picture of what is making you angry
  • Beat up a stuffed bear
  • Pop bubble wrap
  • Pop balloons
  • Scribble on a piece of paper until the whole page is black
  • Throw darts at a dartboard
  • Go for a run
  • Write your feelings on paper then rip it up
  • Build a fort of pillows and then destroy it
  • Throw ice cubes at the bathtub wall, at a tree, etc
  • Get out a fine tooth comb and vigorously brush the fur of a stuffed animal (but use gentle vigor)
  • Make a soft cloth doll to represent the things you are angry at; cut and tear it instead of yourself
  • Flatten aluminium cans for recycling, seeing how fast you can go
  • On a sketch or photo of yourself, mark in red ink what you want to do. Cut and tear the picture
  • Break sticks
  • Cut up fruits
  • Make yourself as comfortable as possible
  • Yell at what you are breaking and tell it why you are angry, hurt, upset, etc.
  • Buy a cheap plate and decorate it with markers, stickers, cut outs from magazines, words, images, what ever that expresses your pain and sadness and when you’re done, smash it. (Please be careful when doing this, its best to do this outdoors)
  • The Calm Jar (Fill a mason jar or similar with colored water and glitter. When feeling upset or angry you can shake it to disturb the glitter and focus on that until the glitter settles.)


Alternatives that will give you a sensation (other than pain) without harming yourself:

  • Hold ice in your hands, against your arm, or in your mouth
  • Run your hands under freezing cold water
  • Snap a rubber band or hair band against your wrist
  • Clap your hands until it stings (however make sure you don’t clap too hard)
  • Wax your legs
  • Put PVA/Elmer’s glue on your hands then peel it off
  • Massage where you want to hurt yourself
  • Take a hot shower/bath
  • Write or paint on yourself
  • Put tiger balm on the places you want to cut. (Tiger balm is a muscle relaxant cream that induces a tingly sensation. You can find it in most health food stores and vitamin stores.)

I hope some of these tips help you xoxo

-Hermit Sam